Ep #25 How to Make Pivotal Life Decisions Part 2: The Universe Always Says Yes

by | Apr 18, 2024 | Manifestation, Motivation, Purpose, SCA Podcast

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Ani
Hi there, everyone. Welcome to the Somatic Coaching Academy podcast. Hey there, Brian. I’m so excited to continue our series on making powerful, pivotal life decisions. Last time, it was such a great conversation. I’m so glad we’re talking about this. Last time, we got to hear about your pivotal life decision in moving from Buffalo, into a place where you really wanted to work and how at first you didn’t do it and what that looked like. Painful. And then eventually being able to make another pivotal, powerful life decision to be able to do the thing that you really wanted to do that was so on purpose. We also got to hear about your story where you waited five years to take a training. Dude, that was painful, too. Not making decisions that are in alignment with your purpose and who you are in the world is painful. But actually, I think we’re going to talk about that more in the next episode here. Today, what are we talking about today?

Brian
So this is part two of our series. And so as Ani was alluding to, if you’re just picking up this episode right here, then go back one and listen to part one of this series on how to make pivotal life decisions. The last episode was why people play small or not at all. This episode is The Universe Always Says Yes.

Ani
Yes, it does.

Brian
Universe always says yes.

Ani
We’re going to talk about the natural laws here, Brian. But remembering for me the moment that I got this for real. I got this for real. We were in, I think it was the New York City Planetarium, because we’ve been to a few Planetariums with the kids, but I think it was the New York City one. And we were sitting there on these bean bag chairs looking up at the sky, and the announcement voice was talking to us, right? And it said, The only thing that’s happening in the universe is expansion. And I’ve been studying the natural laws for a few years before that moment. But that was the moment. I’m surprised I didn’t just pop up right in the planetarium and say something, “eureka. I get it!” Because that was the moment that I understood this concept about YES and about the laws. And it was like everything clicked into place. The only thing that’s happening in the universe is expansion. Think about it. The universe isn’t expanding and contracting, expanding and contracting. Our breath does that. I mean, just pay attention to your breath for a second, and you can see that your breath expands and contracts.

Ani
The only thing that’s happening in the universe is expansion. Expansion.

Brian
Expansion, yeah. So it’s constantly, constantly growing. That is this idea of, yes, that’s the direction we’re going. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Let’s talk about the universal natural laws. What makes a natural law a natural law? I think we’ve touched on this in a previous podcast.

Ani
Yeah, we did. We did an episode about the natural laws. You can go back and listen to it. But hey, don’t think it’s the only time you’re going to hear about them or the only time that you could because we teach this stuff, and I don’t know about you, Brian, but I sit in class and I learn every single time we talk about the natural laws.

Brian
Yeah. Let’s make a quick linkage from the natural laws to somatics for a moment, because you might be listening to the Somatic Coaching Academy podcast, and you’re like, Why are they talking about natural laws? I thought we were talking about somatic stuff. The body. The body stuff. Well, your bodies are natural.

Ani
Thanks for making that link, Brian.

Brian
Exactly. Our bodies are natural, and they’re a part of the universe, all these things. Our bodies also align and work according to natural laws. So one of the things we do here at this Somatic Coaching Academy is we teach our students how to embody the natural laws, not just intellectually understand them, but how to link them up in your physiology because that’s how you modify and change your subconscious programming.

Ani
Just for a moment, when I think about this, I think about the miracles of life. How on earth is it that a fetus grows into a human? We see the images and stuff. It’s totally amazing. Similarly, with the acorn into the oak tree, you look at the acorn, you’re like, How does that happen? I mean, nature amazes us. It’s miraculous.

Brian
And that’s us, too. The first time I heard someone say, The whole oak tree is inside of the acorn, my mind, I was like, What? I’m trying to think, how does that whole oak tree fit inside of an acorn? I’m trying to see. Well, what he was saying, what he really meant was the program for the entire oak tree lives in the acorn. Acorn doesn’t have to go to school, It doesn’t have to learn how to become an oak tree. It doesn’t have to learn anything. It just becomes an oak tree because all the DNA programming required to become an oak tree is already inherently inside of the acorn.

Ani
Yeah, all at needs is the right environment, and off it goes.

Brian
We’re jumping ahead a little bit. Okay, okay. Back up. Okay, so let’s back up the train. Where are we going? Let’s talk with the natural laws. Okay. So what makes a natural law a natural law? So natural laws have three primary aspects to them, if you want to think about it that way. Number one, they are omnipresent. So natural laws are everywhere in the universe. There’s nowhere that they’re not. Anything that is everywhere can be a natural law, but that’s one of the aspects of a natural law. The next aspect is natural laws are persistent and consistent. They act all of the time in the same manner, constantly. They never change what they’re doing. 24/7, they don’t change their behavior on Mondays or Tuesdays. They don’t get tired on Wednesdays, take Thursdays off because they need a mental health day. They don’t do that. They just keep doing their thing all the time. Natural laws are always acting. Then thirdly, natural laws are non-judgmental, which means they don’t care what you think about them.

Ani
And they don’t care what you’ve done.

Brian
They don’t care what you’ve done. They really don’t care. They’re just going to keep doing their thing. So gravity is an example of a natural law. So gravity is everywhere in the universe. And you might think, but in Brian, in space, it’s different. Because one of the laws of gravity is gravity changes based on the size of the mass that it’s associated with. So gravity is all through space, but in some parts of space, there’s no planets. So gravity doesn’t show up the way that we think it shows up. If we shrink this down to the Earth for a second-

Ani
Just look at the things in our lives.

Ani
Yeah, sure.

Brian
If we shrink this down to the Earth for a second, gravity around the Earth is the same everywhere around the Earth. It doesn’t matter where you are on the whole globe, gravity is acting. It’s acting all of the time. It never takes a day off. It’s happening constantly. And gravity doesn’t care what you think about it. You could know everything about gravity and slip, and you’re still going to fall to the ground. And you can know nothing about gravity, you’ll slip and you still fall to the ground.

Ani
Those are the tenets, the foundations of natural laws. And some of you are going, I’ve never heard about this stuff. Why have I never heard about this stuff before? And others of you are going, this sounds familiar. And the thing is the ideology of the natural laws are woven into lots of different things in life. It’s spiritual practices, principles, religions, and things like that for sure. They can get mixed up with a lot of different stuff. But if you’re like, some of this sounds familiar, that’s because you’ve heard some of it before. But the thing is the human mind has the ability to perceive. We have the ability to perceive and learn and stuff. We might have learned this, and we perceive things. And so we can perceive whether or not the natural laws that we think are at play. The reality is they are. We might just not be perceiving them. Yeah, just like gravity. The human mind can trick us up like that. Yeah.

Brian
If you test the natural laws, you’ll find out that they are immutable. They just keep doing what they’re doing all the time. They just keep showing up.

Ani
It’s one of my favorite things that we do with our students because they’ll learn about it and they’ll go, Is that there? And then we’ll do some proving of the natural laws. They’re like, Oh, my God, it’s there. I didn’t even see it. How did I not know it was there all along, hiding in plain sight?

Brian
Yeah. To your point, Ani, because what we perceive is really associated with what we’ve been programmed to perceive. If we grew up not being programmed to perceive how the natural laws operate, then we won’t see them.

Ani
When we’re talking about perception, I just read this the other day. I know I said it three times in the past two days, in terms of perception, a lot of times we think what we see, we can believe. But 4 % of the information that we call sight is actually the information that we’re taking in from our eyes, which means that 96 % of the information that we call sight is being programmed from our conditioning.

Brian
If I can reorient that for a moment just to make sure I understand. I’m seeing something right now. So I’m seeing images right now. Now, of course, the images I may think that I’m seeing with my eyes, but what I’m actually doing is I’m seeing them because my brain is creating those images. I might actually think I’m seeing you right now, but actually what you’re doing is you’re actually showing up an image in my brain. So it sounds like what you’re saying is when I look at you, the image is showing up in my brain, only 4% of that image is actually what’s coming through my eyes.

Ani
Yeah. Yeah, exactly.

Brian
So you really are my fantasy.

Ani
Yes, Brian. It’s true.

Brian
moving on. What we got? Okay, we got the law of more life, people. The primary natural law that governs… Think about this as like, Zeus. I think about the gods, the Greek gods. You have Zeús, and Poseidon, and Neptune, Neptune, and Poseidon are the same guy.

Ani
You’re talking to the wrong person in Greek mythology.

Brian
Anyway, you got the Greek gods, right? What? At the head of all the Greek gods is Zeús. All the other gods are powerful, and they got their own jam going, and all that stuff. But Zeús is sitting… So the law of more life is zeús. He’s the one sitting at the… He or she, Zeús, is sitting at the head of all the other natural laws. The law of more life says that everything in the universe is energy. Everything’s energy. The modus operandi of that energy is always to move towards growth, always to move towards more life. A lot of us have heard the idea that what you pay attention to grows. And so attention is a channeling of energy. When we pay attention to something, we are channeling energy towards that thing and it grows. So whatever we pay attention to grows or we don’t pay attention to dissolves and disintegrates. That’s our human faculty proving the law of more life.

Ani
Right. But it’s also our human faculty, because as soon as we start to talk about it like that, we get all kinds of other potential natural laws at play, which is why I love that Planetarium thing so dang much.

Brian
That’s the law of more life. Exactly.

Ani
Because it is the law of more life, and it takes out all the human perception from it because the energy… I’m sorry, the attention. The attention thing is totally true, but then we get all whacked out about it. The only thing that’s happening is expansion, that’s it. Law of more life.

Brian
Right. But look at trees growing. Look out in nature, and trees don’t stop growing because they’re afraid to grow, because they’re like, I don’t like heights. I’m a little worried about growing. I don’t want to stand up taller than everybody else. They might laugh. Trees are just like, I’m just going to keep growing.

Ani
Yeah. And then they die, and the death fosters more life. And that’s the thing. The saying that if you’re not growing, you’re dying. Actually, with the law of more life, that saying doesn’t work because death fosters more life. The question is, is it fostering your more life or not? Because it might be fostering the life of all.

Brian
Sure. Yeah, exactly.

Ani
Just like the universe.

Brian
Just like the universe. There’s this law of more life in the universe. Trees keep growing, squirrels keep repopulating, just come look in our yard, and they just keep growing, and fish keep swimming.

Ani
Have you ever seen a baby squirrel in our yard? I’ve never seen a baby squirrel. They just keep popping up as adults. How does that happen? Maybe the chipmunks are becoming.

Brian
I don’t know. Anyway, so things just keep growing. There’s a lot more life. Everything is in the way of growth. If attention is being paid to it, it grows faster, grows more. Everything is growing

Ani
So we can use this in terms of helping ourselves to make a decision in that we have to prove the law, and we have to know that the only thing the universe is saying is yes. We’re going to talk in the next episode about how to really sort through some of this stuff. For now, I think probably the thing to say is, what if the way to make a decision was really to know that the only thing that was happening was yes?

Brian
And the universe always says yes. So we like to talk about how when we make pivotal decisions, it’s really about embracing… If we want to make decisions, pivotal decisions that are in line with the way that the universe makes decisions, we would be making those decisions from a place of yes.

Ani
And, and, and, and, and, And, and, Brian.

Brian
Oh, and, and.

Ani
And, and, Brian. Yes, and, and. Because and goes with universal principles. Think about it. The expansion would be an and, and, and, and. But oftentimes we say, or, and but, and we contract, and we bring back. And if we’re going to think about making pivotal life decisions like the universe thinks about making life decisions, we need to catch ourselves and always be in an ‘and’ frame of mind.

Brian
When I think about pivotal life decisions that I’ve made or haven’t made, as we’ve talked about, I was coming at those decisions from an ‘or’. Do I move to North Carolina or do I stay in Buffalo?

Ani
Do I leave my girlfriend? Do I move to North Carolina or do I leave my girlfriend?

Brian
Sure, yeah. Or there’s those or’s. Those ors, that’s not operating from a yes mindset. That’s not operating the way that the universe operates. That’s operating the way that I was taught subconsciously to operate. In the last episode, we talked a whole bunch about, are we making decisions that are in alignment with what we want to create in our lives? Are we making decisions on who we want to become or based on who we are supposed to be? And ‘or’ is always a flag for I am actually right now in a thought frequency of who I’m supposed to be.

Ani
And are you being a creator of your life? Because the natural laws help us to be in creation. They’re actually creation blueprint, basically. Am I being a creator? You can ask yourself that, because if you can’t definitively say, yes, I am creating my own life, you’ve got to know you’re coming from what you were taught you should do, your conditioning, how everybody else taught you. So are you being a creator of your own life?

Brian
Actually, that brings up a really great point, Ani, is let’s talk about a creation blueprint. We talked about the acorn, we talked about the oak tree, and we did a past podcast on Purpose. And we did it on purpose. It was a purpose podcast, and we did it on purpose.

Ani
It was just a few episodes ago, actually.

Brian
And it really talks about what is your acorn? What is your own… Each one of us is born with a creation blueprint. Each one of us is born with an acorn of who we are meant to be in this world, how we are meant to be in this world.

Ani
And the thing I love, I think, the most about this is you can identify your acorn from a frequency standpoint of how it feels. And even as you move up, up, up into different vibrational frequencies. Can we talk about that in just a second? As you move up into different different vibrational frequencies. You’re going to have different thoughts. You’re going to have different words that you speak. You’re going to have different actions that you take as you continue to evolve, evolve, evolve. But you can still cue in with your blueprint for success based on how it feels in the sensory apparatus of your body.

Brian
Because that’s what we’re born with. When we’re born, we are sensing beings. We’re not thinking beings when we’re born. Babies don’t think. They sense.

Ani
We are human beings.

Brian
We are human beings when we’re born. We really don’t start thinking until after the age of seven. After the age of seven is when the neocortex starts working in a child. Before that, children are completely subconscious beings. They’re completely connected in with the totality of the universe. That’s also the time in a child’s life where they are learning about the rules of their society. Earth rules. They’re learning Earth rules. We’re born with this sense of expansiveness. We’re born as being an expression of the universe. That’s what we’re born with. The universe always says yes. The little phrase I like to use is, Honey, we are born to say yes, but we’re taught to say no.

Ani
Yeah, because who makes the Earth rules, Brian?

Brian
Humans.

Ani
People.

Brian
Who have been around for a really long time, that have learned from other people, from other people, from other people, from other people, from other people, from other people, from other people. We just have these patterns passed down. For instance, one of the reasons I stayed in Buffalo, because I had this whole program around getting married, starting a family, settling down at the ripe old age of 22. Because that’s the soup I was living in from a very, very early age. Yeah.

Ani
A few hundred years ago, that was really important because you might not live past 35 or 40. And yet those things are still being passed down, down, down. And nobody had to teach you. We learn them actually through vibrational frequency, primarily. Can we talk about the law of vibration super quick?

Brian
Sure.

Ani
Because I think that when we make new decisions, one of the things that I love about pivotal decisions is they actually put us on a new vibrational frequency. And Einstein says, you can’t solve a problem from the current frequency with which it was created. But that’s what we’re trying to do all the time we’ve got these problems, we’re trying to fix them from the same vibrational frequency, and we end up recreating the problem. Oftentimes it looks a little disguised. It’s wearing a little mustache. It has a cowboy hat, but it’s the same damn thing. One of the things that I identify with as a pivotal decision is it puts me on a different vibrational frequency. So I know that I actually am going to have when I’m operating in that new vibrational frequency, I’m going to have different thoughts than I have right now. I’m going to have different language that I use right now. I’m going to have different actions that I take right now. And all of that stuff is going to come in a package of, oh, I’m operating in a new vibrational frequency. Everything is energy, and everything vibrates. And that’s the law of vibration.

Brian
I want to just tie back what you just said, Ani, to the last episode we did. When we have a new frequency, new sensations, new thoughts, new words, new actions. The key word in all that is new, and that creates uncertainty. Because it’s new, it creates uncertainty. we talked about last time, the reason people play small or not at all is because they’re making default decisions to choose certainty over uncertainty, because uncertainty requires more energy. Sometimes we do make what we believe is a pivotal decision, and all of a sudden it starts to create uncertainty and requires a little more energy. Then people are like, Whoops, I shouldn’t have done that. I’m going to go back. I’m going to go back to the small decision. Can I get my money back? I can’t do it now. I’ve got to do something different. Something came up, and that’s where all the resistance starts to happen.

Ani
So it feels uncertain. It feels like unknown. It feels like something. That’s the real bulleted, underlined thing, Asterisk, because at first, when we’re moving into a new vibrational frequency, we’re not going to know, I’m in a new vibrational frequency right now. It’s not going to be all like that. You’re going to feel different. You feel the frequency change. It feels like something. But what happens is we then make meaning because the thoughts follow our sensations. We then make meaning of that vibrational frequency change and think, I shouldn’t have done that. That was wrong. And I shouldn’t have done that is a major, major clue, like a big flag waving that you’re changing vibrational frequency and just watch it because you were taught what you should do.

Brian
Yeah, exactly. We’re talking more about those specific tactics in our next episode for sure. So we don’t want to jump too far ahead of with that. What we want to basically just come back and fold on to what we’ve talked about today, that the universe always says yes. Why does the universe always say yes? Because universal law of more life is always expanding. It’s always growing. So if we’re going to make decisions in alignment with universal law, why would we even want to do that?

Ani
Because we want to be creators.

Brian
Is a question. I mean, that’s what I think. Yeah. So let’s just focus on that for a second. Why do we even want to make decisions in alignment with universal law? Because we want to be creators. Yeah.

Ani
I want to do what I want to do. I want to be in flow.

Brian
Because when you make decisions in alignment with natural law, basically, you become like natural laws. I don’t know, right? You’re in flow, in growth. There’s more expansion, there’s more ease, there’s more spontaneous… I was going to use the word collusion, but the universe just starts to co-cooperate, co-organate. Synchronies start to happen when we’re making decisions based in natural laws.

Ani
I think it comes down to the fact that all humans are really looking for peace, just inner peace. And knowing that you’re a creator, knowing how to do that brings a profound peace to life.

Brian
And initially for people, as you pointed out, that additional vibration change because most people are not used to living in so much yes energy. Absolutely. That that creates that uncertainty. I must be doing something wrong. I must be doing something wrong because I feel all this energy. And it’s the energy of expansion. And a lot of people talk about that as feeling like anxiety or whatever they name it. It’s all this expansive energy. A lot of people say anxiety. People are not used to experiencing that. And so they say to themselves, I must be doing something wrong. I’m going to take back that decision.

Ani
Right. Whereas we would say, Well, hey, It sounds like you’re operating within the context of the natural laws, and you’re feeling a new vibrational frequency, which we’re going to talk about, like you said, in the next episode. Brian, as we’re talking about these pivotal decisions and the natural laws and being a creator, I really just want to leave people with a practical thing they can do. If you want a practical takeaway from today, think about this. Catch yourself when you’re saying ‘or, but, or however’, and you’re doing that contraction and see if you can place an ‘and’ in that conversation instead. That’s just a really super practical thing you can do. Another super practical thing you can do is quite simply, practice saying yes to everything, and you’ll start to see how there’s like… You’re going to be like, Well, wait a minute. This is a no. What do I do about that? Well, hang on. We’re going to talk more about that in the next episode. But just for this week, just practice, what would it be like if I said, yes, yes, yes, yes. And then join us in the next episode. We’re going to give you a lot more interesting stuff and practical tips.

Brian
Yes, because there’s a little phrase to carry from this episode in the next episode is that the universe always says yes, but it doesn’t say yes to everything.

Ani
We’ll see you next time. Thanks for joining us today, and we look forward to helping you make even more powerful and pivotal decisions in your life in the next episode.

Brian
Yes.

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