Ep #07 From Emotional Dysregulation To Regulation With Somatic Coaching

by | Dec 14, 2023 | Burn out Prevention, More Energy, SCA Podcast, Stress Relief

SCAP - DFY 7 | Emotional Dysregulation


In our fast-paced, ever-evolving world, emotional dysregulation has become a silent epidemic. Every day, we encounter a myriad of challenges that test our emotional resilience, often without even realizing it. My journey, alongside my cofounder Ani Anderson, in the realms of somatic coaching and emotional well-being, has illuminated the pervasive nature of this issue. Through our podcast, we’ve had the opportunity to delve into these challenges, seeking not just to understand them but to offer real, tangible solutions.

I’ve come to see emotional dysregulation not just as a personal struggle but as a collective one. The stories we’ve heard and the experiences we’ve shared have underscored a crucial truth: understanding and addressing emotional dysregulation is not just beneficial—it’s essential for our well-being and growth.

Understanding Emotional Dysregulation

Recognizing the Signs

Over the years, I’ve observed countless instances of emotional dysregulation, many of which went unnoticed by those experiencing them. I recall a particular instance where a client, let’s call her Jane, exhibited classic signs of emotional dysregulation that she couldn’t identify. It was through our sessions that we uncovered her tendency to become easily overwhelmed by seemingly minor setbacks, leading to disproportionate reactions.

In my early days of practicing somatic coaching, I too missed signs of my own emotional dysregulation. Instances of surprising irritability or undue stress over small issues were red flags I initially overlooked.

Common signs and symptoms to watch for:

  • Difficulty in managing emotional responses to everyday situations
  • Sudden onset of context disproportionate, intense emotions such as anger, fear, or sadness
  • Feelings of being overwhelmed or out of control
  • Confusion or “stuckness”
  • Chronic Hypervigilance or anxiety
  • Physical symptoms like increased heart rate or tension without a clear cause

The Impact of Emotional Dysregulation

The ripple effects of emotional dysregulation are huge, affecting our relationships, professional life, and overall well-being. Through our work at the Somatic Coaching Academy, we’ve seen firsthand the transformative power of addressing these issues head-on.

In personal relationships, chronic emotional dysregulation can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and estrangement. Professionally, it can manifest as decreased productivity, workplace tensions, and a lack of fulfillment.

Regulation oftentimes has to do with the relationships that we are a part of. Share on X

One client, a high-achieving professional we’ll call Tom, struggled with emotional dysregulation that hindered his career progression. Despite his competence, Tom’s inability to manage stress and his reactions in high-stakes situations was a significant barrier. Through somatic coaching, we worked on recognizing the early signs of dysregulation and employing techniques to navigate these moments more effectively.

These experiences underscore the critical importance of not only recognizing emotional dysregulation but actively seeking ways to manage and overcome it. Through the lens of somatic coaching, we’ve been able to guide many towards a path of greater emotional stability and fulfillment, a journey that continues to inspire and motivate our work every day.

SCAP - DFY 7 | Emotional Dysregulation

The Role of Somatic Coaching in Addressing Emotional Dysregulation

Somatic coaching represents a pivotal shift in how we approach emotional dysregulation. This method transcends traditional coaching by integrating the body’s wisdom into the growth process. My journey into somatic coaching began as a strong desire to bridge the gap between the physical and emotional aspects of our being, recognizing that true change occurs when both are aligned.

Somatic coaching and its importance

Somatic coaching operates on the understanding that the mind and body are interconnected, and emotional states are deeply rooted in bodily sensations. It’s a holistic approach that looks beyond the symptoms to address the underlying causes of dysregulation.

My journey to discovering somatic coaching

My path was paved with a deep-seated belief in the transformative power of understanding our body’s signals. Witnessing the limitations of traditional coaching and therapeutic methods in addressing the full spectrum of human experience led me to explore somatic practices. This exploration revealed the profound impact of tuning into and decoding our body’s language to foster emotional regulation.

Very often, in terms of emotional dysregulation, there is a component of healing work that can be done really easily and completely with somatic coaching that then allows you to continue to move forward. Share on X

The Science Behind Somatic Coaching

The foundation of somatic coaching lies in its science-based approach to understanding the human nervous system and its role in regulating our emotions. By delving into the mechanics of sensory input, cognitive prediction, and nervous system regulation, we uncover the root of emotional dysregulation.

The nervous system and its role in emotional regulation

Our nervous system is the command center for our emotional responses, with our sensory experiences directly influencing our state of regulation. Emotional dysregulation often stems from a nervous system that is either hyper-aroused (overwhelmed) or hypo-aroused (shutdown).

A lot of this work comes from the window of tolerance model, where there’s an optimal window of regulation or what we call nervous system arousal in the middle and then there’s hyperarousal above that window where we feel activated and hypo-arousal below it.

How somatic coaching targets the root of emotional dysregulation

Somatic coaching employs techniques designed to bring the nervous system back into balance. By focusing on sensory awareness and modulation, we teach individuals to navigate their way back to a state of equilibrium, thus addressing the root cause of their emotional challenges.

SCAP - DFY 7 | Emotional Dysregulation

Real-Life Success Stories

Amanda’s Transformation

Amanda’s story is a testament to the efficacy of somatic coaching. Struggling with anger and frustration, her journey from emotional turmoil to regulation showcases the profound impact of this work.

Amanda came to us feeling stuck, her professional and personal life hampered by her reactive emotional state. Recognizing her pattern of anger was the first step toward transformation.

Labeling anger, shame, or depression is a really powerful and efficient way to help people get back into regulation. Share on X

Our sessions focused on identifying the physical sensations associated with her emotions and employing techniques to modulate her nervous system’s response. This approach allowed Amanda to shift from a state of dysregulation to one of more centered clarity.

Personal Experiences with Emotional Regulation

My own experiences with emotional dysregulation and the journey toward regulation have deeply influenced my practice and understanding of somatic coaching.

Like many, I’ve faced moments of overwhelming emotions and stress. Somatic coaching skills provided the tools not just to manage these moments but to understand and transform my relationship with them.

How somatic coaching changed my perspective and approach to life:

The practice of somatic coaching has reshaped my understanding of emotional health, emphasizing the importance of bodily awareness and the power of our innate capacity for self-regulation.

Through these insights and transformations, somatic coaching has proven to be an invaluable asset in our toolkit for emotional well-being, offering a pathway to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Implementing Somatic Coaching Techniques

Practical Steps for Emotional Regulation

In our exploration of somatic coaching, we’ve uncovered the profound impact it can have on managing and regulating emotions. To bring these concepts to life, let me guide you through some foundational techniques that you can start applying today. Remember, approaching these practices with a beginner’s mindset is key; be open, curious, and free from judgment.

Guided walkthrough of somatic coaching techniques for readers to try:

  • Sensory Awareness Meditation: Begin by finding a comfortable and quiet space. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and focus on one sense at a time. Where do you feel something?? What does it feel like? This practice helps ground you in the present moment, fostering a deep connection with your body’s sensory experiences.
  • Body Scan for Emotional Insight: Slowly scan your body from head to toe, noting any sensations or emotions that arise.  Allow yourself to be with sensations or emotions as it feels safe to do so; if a sensation or body area feels too unsettling to stay with, you might simply scan to another body area, shift your body position, or discontinue the meditation.  This technique allows you to identify and acknowledge your emotional state without judgment, creating a pathway for regulation and insight.

Encouraging a beginner’s mindset in approaching emotional regulation:

Approach each practice with curiosity and openness, as if you are learning it for the first time. This mindset allows for greater discovery and a deeper understanding of your emotional landscape.

Building a Sustainable Practice for Emotional Regulation

The journey toward emotional regulation through somatic coaching is not a quick fix but a lifelong practice. Here are some tips to integrate these techniques into your daily life, ensuring a sustainable path toward well-being.

Tips for incorporating somatic coaching practices into daily life:

  • Set aside dedicated time each day for practice: Even just a few minutes can make a significant difference in your ability to regulate emotions.
  • Integrate mindfulness into routine activities: Try to bring sensory awareness into everyday tasks, like eating or walking, to cultivate a continuous practice of somatic awareness.

The importance of patience and persistence in the journey to emotional regulation:

Emotional regulation is a skill that develops over time. Patience with yourself and persistence in practice are crucial to experiencing the full benefits of somatic coaching.


Reflecting on our journey through the world of somatic coaching, it’s clear that this approach offers a transformative path to understanding and managing emotional dysregulation. By fostering a deep connection between mind and body, somatic coaching empowers individuals to navigate their emotional landscapes with grace and resilience.

As we close this exploration, I invite you to embark on your own journey with somatic coaching. Whether you’re seeking to overcome emotional obstacles, enhance your well-being, or simply deepen your understanding of yourself, somatic coaching offers valuable tools and insights.

I encourage you to explore somatic coaching for yourself. Dive into the practices, experiment with the techniques, and observe the shifts in your emotional regulation and overall well-being.

Our community at the Somatic Coaching Academy is here to support you on this journey. Join us to access resources, share experiences, and connect with others who are on the path to emotional regulation and well-being.

Together, we can navigate the complexities of our emotional worlds, unlocking the door to a more balanced, fulfilling life.

The above blog is based on the Somatic Coaching Academy podcast

Watch the episode here

Listen to the podcast here

Get started today!

Start your Somatic Coach Training Journey by Unlocking Human Potential… Our students always say, “I wish I had started sooner!”

Click to Unlock Human Potential